Here are some ways to break up a breakup

Here are some ways to break up a breakup

I think we divide too much. A boredom sets in with being attached. Separation becomes a novelty to the boredom of being together for so long.

Divisions occur at all levels. There are breakups that end in sadness for a few days and crying for a few hours. Male-female separations also occur in this way, but the implications are different.

Modern life calls separation a 'break up'. It usually refers to the male-female division. As if this is something new, the word has a dignity in itself, but the Tamil society has been known the sake of division two thousand years ago.

Sangha literature says that the causes of division are wandering for income and seeking opposite attraction of other gender. This reasoning continues until the modern break-up shows that there is no change in the essence of the Sangha literature.

An ego, a fight, an altruistic reason – anything like this can cause a modern break up. Or even without reason, a break up can happen even if the mind is the main reason.

Every mind is always looking for a harmony. Whenever there is a problem in it, the mind tries to overcome that problem. When that limit becomes too much to deal with, the next step is to break up.

There is a freedom in current break-ups. There is a right to establish a will. The society of that day tied both freedom and choice in the double thread of family and society. Even if there were legitimate reasons for the breakup, it was blocked by showing those two.

Family and society are still against separation. Especially post-marital division is not uncommon. Then the family and society exerts its tight grip. It holds the panchayat, police station, court etc. to such an extent that it cannot loosen its grip.

In the society of that time, pre-marital relations were not common. So it didn't need any big rules and restrictions on pre-marital break-up. And it is not suitable for pre-marital relationship.

Post-marital break-ups are subject to certain commitments. You can say that break ups happen even when they are under certain conditions, Panchayat, Police Station, Court etc. Those break ups are not normal. There is a lot of mental anguish and legal attacks in it. You can say break up only after all of them are over.

If you break up after marriage, you have to go through so many rituals. There are people who think about it and say break up for break up.

If you can't understand someone and you can't love someone then break up becomes inevitable.

If your nature, desires, and freedoms prevent you from understanding another, it is better for you and for him to leave him.

Are your nature compatible with someone's before you fall in love with someone emotionally? Do your desires and his desires not collide? Are your freedoms and his freedoms unaffected by each other? Make sure that etc.

A simple reason may be enough for your breakup. You should think about the above reasons so that you don't break up.

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